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Originally Posted by unluky
But this implied that both are fairly equal AND not vindictive. Usually you are getting a divorce due to some reason, and some of those reasons can mean someone is pissed and vindictive - and then they get lawyers involved - it can get ugly fast.
Like you - I try and assess those types of people in advance and avoid them. But we all know people who seem to gravitate to drama or can't stand being along and grab whatever walks by, etc. Like I said - most times you can point to the error they made getting married, but it happens - a lot.
I agree everyone should stand up to their responsibilities - but destroying someone's life, just because it's "legal", is scary as hell.
Choose wisely and you don't have to worry about it. I think you should look at it just like you would a business partner before you even consider it. Lay all your cards on the table - credit reports everything. If you would not trust them to manage their own money, don't get legally involved.
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Its not so easy anymore depending on state. My coworker has a vindictive ex and she tried it and, at least in Georgia, the judge wasnt having it.
Dude got a new car when he got rear-ended and she took him to court to try and get more CS thinking he got a pay increase or something and she ended up owing him $100/mo. And the judge wouldnt let anyone make any arguments unless she could show there were wages unaccounted for.
Marriage is a contract and its only smart to know the laws in your state before entering in such a contract.