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Originally Posted by Alfisti
I make it sound bad I guess, the babies were really tough, we had zero support and the mrs is easily overwhelmed. But i'd still have em again if i had to, as they grow it gets very cool.
How good is it, peak foruming. It's jumped all over the place but still circles back, brilliant.
I was 34 and 39 and to me, it was a bit too old. I mean younger than some folks here and i don't mean them any disrespect but before you know i you are dead tired, added 25 pounds, can't sleep etc and you just don't have the energy you did at 30.
It also depends on the couple, reality is a lot depends on the woman, it just does, especially if she plans to take mat leave. I'd go to work on 2 hours sleep, come home and find both the baby and the wife crying, mrs looked homeless. You need the woman to be able to tuck the kids under her arm and get on with it otherwise you end up with two parents who are absolutely wrecked and tempers fray.
I've actually suggested to young couples that the man sleep in the basement, there's not much he can do to help after the first few weeks when it is time to wake and feed the baby, i'd just be there as support but i did literally nothing other than fetch the baby. So my night is BUTCHERED, i zombie through the day, come home and we are both wrecked. I think it works better if the man gets some rest, comes home from work somewhat fresh, grabs the baby, relieves the wife, tell her to go run a bath and put the headphones on and get her dinner ready.
If the man then takes some pat leave as i did, reverse the roles.
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+1. There's no sense in neither parent getting sleep, if only 1 can do the night time stuff. My partner made that mistake for us the first time, but thankfully this time she's on board and we can generally get by.
