[cmyx6go]

I’m sorry. I feel like I killed vreihen16 ’s thread with my two years of FML. It wasn’t my intention. Let’s lighten it up and get some responses. Happy 4th everyone.

Alfisti How did you screw up your pool?

[Esteban]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

I'm sorry. I feel like I killed vreihen16 's thread with my two years of FML. It wasn't my intention. Let's lighten it up and get some responses. Happy 4th everyone.

Alfisti How did you screw up your pool?

Happy 4th to you too, and everyone.

And I wish I had @Alfisti's problem.

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by Esteban

Happy 4th to you too, and everyone.

And I wish I had Alfisti's problem.

I guess that means you wish you had a pool? Me too. I miss my pool, but that takes us back to my 2 years so we’ll leave that alone

[Esteban]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

I guess that means you wish you had a pool? Me too. I miss my pool, but that takes us back to my 2 years so we'll leave that alone

Yes, that's what it means.

I got Alfisti's name wrong up there but made the correction. Your quote of my post shows my mistake. Whoops! lol

[F30lolz]

From 2015 through this year I’ve had countless family members pass away. I’ve mentioned here that my cousin from Queens NY was murdered back in 2018 when she was pushed in front of a subway in Brooklyn. Her father, as you can expect, was devastated. Sadly, he just passed 4-5 weeks ago but at least he gets to be with his little girl for eternity.

[Esteban]

^^ Wow, that murder is horrible, as are the deaths.

I don't really have any FML stories.

Hopefully they're not coming.

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by F30lolz

From 2015 through this year I’ve had countless family members pass away. I’ve mentioned here that my cousin from Queens NY was murdered back in 2018 when she was pushed in front of a subway in Brooklyn. Her father, as you can expect, was devastated. Sadly, he just passed 4-5 weeks ago but at least he gets to be with his little girl for eternity.

So tragic. I can’t imagine how you ever get over that.

[ryan stewart]

Originally Posted by M_Six

I feel better after reading some of these. My FML isn't quite as bad as some of you folks have endured. My biggest fear as I got closer to retirement was that one or more things beyond my control would mess it up. Well, Mom passed away, COVID, travel restrictions, supply shortages, the idiot Putin starting a war, the markets crashing and wiping out some of my retirement funds. All at or since my retirement. With the continued nightmare of traveling (flight cancellations, the risk of catching COVID, etc, etc), I've lost my wanderlust and I'm content to stay at home, which bothers me in a weird way. I'd love to "be" somewhere else, I just don't want to deal with getting there and back. I'm wondering how long it will take before we get back to what passed for normal before 2020.

Im with you as well man. Itching to travel but it always seem like something keeps coming along that just makes it questionable or more complicated.

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by Esteban

Yes, that's what it means.

I got Alfisti's name wrong up there but made the correction. Your quote of my post shows my mistake. Whoops! lol

Well, now you do have a FML moment, albeit a silly one. I fixed where I quoted you, only to realize you quoted me again. Duh! Go fix it! Lol.

[Esteban]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Well, now you do have a FML moment, albeit a silly one. I fixed where I quoted you, only to realize you quoted me again. Duh! Go fix it! Lol.

Done. Little, tiny, itty-bitty problem gone.

[zx10guy]

Not looking for a pity party but this thread made me think about what I've endured over the past 10 years.

The major bad:

Diagnosed with stage 3b colon cancer Dec. 2012. Surgery and chemo for 6 months. To add insult to injury, kidney stone on New Years 2013 days after my cancer surgery.

Diagnosed with stage 0 appendix cancer July 2016. Had complications from the surgery that lasted 3 months where I felt my gut was kicked in every day.

Cancer chase that started March of 2017 where my tumor markers have shot up ever since triggering multiple scopes/scans. Since my first diagnosis in Dec. 2012, I've had 16 CT scans and 5 PET scans. Doc tells me it's a matter of when not if I get cancer back. To add a ray of sunshine to this, my tumor marker plummeted with my recent check up so it appears my doc may be wrong.

Diagnosed with an aneurism in my aorta which I could drop dead if it bursts for any reason. And to boot, I have high blood pressure now; most likely due to all the stress I've been under with my divorce and the challenges with what my ex has been doing with our daughter.

The above is a good lead in to the divorce. Ex abandoned me while I was dealing with issues from the second cancer while we were married. Decided going clubbing and hanging out with friends were more important. She also started her plan with alienating our daughter from me. Divorce was a nightmare. I got raked over the coals as we all know how fair family law/court is for men. I got so screwed the mediator (female) saw how badly I was getting screwed and did her little part to help me out by not bringing to light their math error which saved me a couple grand. Nice but still a drop in the bucket with the jackpot she got out of me for only 6 years of marriage on paper.

Daughter was being affected by the tension and issues with the separation/divorce. Overnight she didn't want to be around me and physically attacked me twice. Wanted to get our daughter into counseling, ex refused. Took me a solid year of working hard to repair the damage ex caused with my relationship with my daughter.

Two wonderful people that were my rock and support while dealing with my cancer passed away from their own cancer.

The less major bad:

An employer puts me on plan for not meeting my quota even though it was out of my control. A partner committed ethical fraud and violated out partner agreement by dual bidding an opportunity where they were also working with a competitor. We lost due to them stacking the winning bid and I got punished because I missed my quota by the amount this deal would have filled the gap. Meanwhile, upper management was still hob knobbing with the executives at said unethical partner after I get put on plan. I did leave this company on my terms.

Another company I worked for stiffed me out of $20k in compensation due to us (sales team) accommodating a request from our VP to recode how we were putting an order in for a solution. When we did that, it changed the crediting of margin putting us below the threshold that disqualified us for the $20k bonus. Got the run around for 6 months until said VP was leaving the company and on his way out denied our appeal for the compensation.

My Toyota had three deer strike incidents in a year. One didn't impact the Toyota but is being counted because the bike I had on my bike rack behind the car was impacted by the deer. The other two caused damage to the passenger rear quarter panel/door and the whole front right corner of the car.

Deer strike on my 135i smashing up the front end of the car.

Idiot female driver backs into my 848 parked behind her knocking it over. This started the long ordeal of first getting the insurance company covering the car she was driving to own up to liability. The reason why I said it hat way is because the car belongs to her mother who lives in Georgia where the car is registered. Not only that, the driver wasn't listed as an authorized driver and the car was not insured to be driven out of state. Apparently, the driver has had the car out of Georgia for months. The admission of liability took a month. Then the battle for them to cover all the costs associated with the repairs ensues. Took almost a year before I got my bike back and only after paying $200 out of my own pocket to cover the gap in payments that the insurance company refused to pay.

I'm sure there are other FML crap I've dealt with in the 10 years. As I type all of this, I'm a little amazed I'm still standing. It's not been all bad. I've had some blessings along the way. Some amazing people stepped up in my time of need to provide support. A decent quality of life and working for an amazing employer. I also know there are others that have had it much worse than me.

[Alfisti]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Alfisti How did you screw up your pool?

Again, will sound trivial, 'cos it is!

I have pleated filters, not a sand filter so you cannot back wash, you have to soak the filters in this mixture overnight then rinse them. To do so, naturally you need to turn the pump off. So i did just that, pulled the system apart and soaked overnight. I wake at 7am to a text from the neighbor "chief, there's a pool in my yard"...... like faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrk.

Turns out even when you press OFF, the pump will re-engage if a new session starts. I have a variable speed pump and run it from 6am to 10pm, whole idea is to extend it's life right. So at 6am, regardless of me turning it off, she engaged. Lost about 8,000 litres dammit.

But I have a real FML, even if it is my own doing. Myself, wife and kids are booked to go to OZ in December but it is just not going to happen. My mother is super, super covid cautious (she has about 7 co-morbilities) so I may try and go alone as it is less risky for her. Still, her not seeing the boys now for over 2 years is a very, very tough scene.

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by zx10guy

Not looking for a pity party but this thread made me think about what I've endured over the past 10 years.

Wow. When it rains, it pours. Glad your markers plummeted. Wishing you the best.

[wtwo3]

......is this a bad time for me to say I'm being forced to go to Disney World next year?

[ryan stewart]

Originally Posted by wtwo3

......is this a bad time for me to say I'm being forced to go to Disney World next year?

Even as a kid that would have been FML.

[Esteban]

Originally Posted by wtwo3

......is this a bad time for me to say I'm being forced to go to Disney World next year?

Being in SoCal, it was Disneyland for me. Loved going as a kid and as a teenager. Loved the crowds and the rides and the excitement. When I was older (early 30s) I took my kids and enjoyed it through their eyes. Haven't been for many years now and it's going to stay that way. Hate crowds, hate the rides, hate the excitement. Have officially become an old man, and I like it.

[vreihen16]

Originally Posted by ryan stewart

Even as a kid that would have been FML.

The second-worse day of my life was as a kid at Disney World. Not sharing any details, except to say that getting hit with the shock paddles while awake *twice* at the hospital was the worst day.....

[SW111]

In a two year span my dad died of cancer, my mom died of cancer, I had cancer (I’m cancer free now). Oh and my dog died.

[Esteban]

^^ Sorry about your parents, and dog. Good to hear you're cancer free.

[UncleWede]

FML - I shouldn't have it this GOOD.
Love of a wife
Children who all still talk to me
roof
dog
food
Dodgers are kicking some azz, and I have 5 more games lined up
chickens
blackberries
3 avocado trees bearing fruit

[OkieSnuffBox]

Originally Posted by UncleWede

3 avocado trees bearing fruit

What's your water bill look like? I know they are insanely water intensive.

My mom's husband (I can't call him stepdad since they didn't start dating until my 20's) has a 30 acre avocado farm just outside of Escondido.

The last time I visited back in 2015 he said the month before they had a $7k water bill just for one month. Granted, I'm sure you know this, only about 2/3rds only produce at one time because they have to top the trees and such.

[rebekahb]

This isn't a thread where I feel comfortable liking these things. To all who have shared, you're some strong ass people.