How would you feel if you had to go to a wedding...

deutschmann59 · 03-09-2006, 08:41 PM

...all by yourself? Well, this is the first of my friends to get married so I'm definitely going to the service. But it really is a coin-toss about staying for the reception, that's for sure. My invite was for me and a "guest"...

Huh.......

I've been in a situation like this before where I was seated at a table all alone with complete strangers and it wasn't pretty...

Gulp!

Oz · 03-09-2006, 08:46 PM

You can always have fun with your friends and then find your date there

I actually haven't been in a wedding myself this age but that's what I would do...

I should watch Wedding Crashers now

e90rocks · 03-09-2006, 08:46 PM

I'd bring a date or skip the reception, but then (except for my own) I hate weddings.

I can't believe I even went to this play once, I forget the name...it was like Danny and Donna's Wedding...only it was audience participation. Basically it was like going to a wedding where you didn't know anybody, only it wasn't a real wedding. (It even got worse when a guy got mad at me for dancing with his wife).

Nikki · 03-09-2006, 08:47 PM

i am in a situation like this right now, and i'm saying no. it's in pennslyvania anyways.

BellasBmw · 03-09-2006, 08:48 PM

Well weddings are a great place to meet a girl. Ive met once x bf at a wedding and my cousin just met a guy at a wedding 2 weeks ago. So, theres always the option of finding your date there. BUT, if this was a wedding where u only knew your friend, then i wouldnt go alone. But if your boys will all be there, and you know the family..etc. going alone aint so bad.

ksfrogman · 03-09-2006, 09:00 PM

Ever seen the movie "Wedding Crashers?" Might give you a laugh or two.

magmd · 03-09-2006, 09:03 PM

You should go to the reception. It will not be so terrible. Well, I am always comfortable meeting new people...even if its just small talk. No need to go there anticipating to hook up. Just go get some light eating...enjoy some booze, and make some small talk. Your friend that is getting married will appreciate it. And, if it is terrible...you can always leave after an hour or so.

with strangers is not that bad

larryn · 03-10-2006, 09:07 AM

Bring a friend you'll have fun with. If you choose to not go, make sure you RSVP that you're not attending the reception! I had 12 no-shows at my 170 person reception. That was over a thousand dollars flushed down the toilet. I was pretty ticked off at the people who did that. We respected people enough to invite them to a personal moment in our lives, and they chose to blow it off.

gdnyc · 03-10-2006, 09:42 AM

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Originally Posted by BellasBmw

Well weddings are a great place to meet a girl. Ive met once x bf at a wedding and my cousin just met a guy at a wedding 2 weeks ago. So, theres always the option of finding your date there. BUT, if this was a wedding where u only knew your friend, then i wouldnt go alone. But if your boys will all be there, and you know the family..etc. going alone aint so bad.

I agree with Bella. Weddings are prime hunting grounds for dates..

Neil · 03-10-2006, 11:28 AM

I was in my friends wedding solo (as one of the groomsmen) and I had a blast. I danced all night with some of the bridesmaids and other random women. Plus if its an open bar, how can you go wrong! It helps though at least knowing some of the people there so if the pickings are slim you have someone to talk to.

Robin_NL · 03-10-2006, 11:34 AM

I'd say:GO(nothing to loose!)

Far better than a funeral.

Squawks · 03-10-2006, 12:02 PM

Hey, Sharp - how about just bringing a friend-girl with you so that you wouldn't be completely alone, have someone to chat with, and perhaps both of you can even court dates at the reception...

SCA · 03-10-2006, 12:20 PM

Nothing wrong with going by yourself. Especially if there will be other friends.

The older I get the more independent I have become.

thedean786 · 03-10-2006, 12:34 PM

It be fun, you could meet some new people and have yourself a good time....

shimshimhada · 03-10-2006, 12:36 PM

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BellasBmw · 03-10-2006, 12:38 PM

I say just wing it.. Play it by ear. When you go to the service, see how it goes from there.

LMBlau · 03-10-2006, 01:22 PM

Go to the reception. You said that there will be all stangers, right? Look for a lonely girl, have a couple or + drinks and go for her. If it works, great and if it does not your reputation will be safe. Win-win situation.

shimshimhada · 03-10-2006, 01:24 PM

But seriously, when the priest goes...let them speak now or forever hold their peace, stand up and SHOUT "BRIDE'S NAME! NOOOOOO" Then be like j/k teehee~

slubu · 03-10-2006, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by gdnyc

I agree with Bella. Weddings are prime hunting grounds for dates..

I met both of my serious long term girlfriends at a wedding. Just think about it from the girl's point of view. Every girl dreams of getting married, having a huge reception, etc. They are now in that situation, feel kinda sad they are not the ones getting married, and are "vulnerable" so to say, or at least more open to the notion of meeting a guy. Now comes you, an eligible bachelor, who is dressed to the tee in a suit and all clean cut. You look your best at the wedding, you are free to chat and no girl will turn you down as its a social net of friends/family so there is an inherent trust. Combine that with some cocktails and dancing...god I can't wait to go to my next wedding.

Squawks · 03-10-2006, 01:50 PM

Slubu, you got the right mentality as Vaughn and Owens on Wedding Crashers

So you don't mind getting a Stage 4 clinger, eh?

mava330 · 03-10-2006, 01:53 PM

sharp GO! Same thing happened to me while I was going through my divorce! Showed up to support my buddy getting married and all his friends (female persuasion) expressed interest in my new found "freedom."

Bottom line you have nothing to loose. Put yourself out there. You never know what'll happen; that's the beauty of it. Remember the risk vs. reward rule; greater risk = greater potential reward.

If you're hang up is that you have a hard time mingling and having small talk, this is a PERFECT staging ground to put yourself out there. How often will you see these people again? So worse case if you bomb then it's not the end of the world. risk v reward bro!

My .02.

slubu · 03-10-2006, 02:49 PM

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Slubu, you got the right mentality as Vaughn and Owens on Wedding Crashers

So you don't mind getting a Stage 4 clinger, eh?

I'm not gonna lie, I love crazy girls...

"She's fit for a staitjacket. This broad's fucked three ways towards the weekend. And you wanna know what? I dig it! It turns me on! Yeah, it turns me on! Because you wanna know what the kicker is, Father? Maybe I'm a little fucking crazy! That's right! Maybe Jeremy's a little nuts! Maybe there's something about me that I'm a little cukoo."

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Oz Lieutenant Colonel 33 Rep 1,770 Posts Drives: 2006 330i, 2004 X5 Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Wayne, NJ iTrader: (1) Garage List 2006 330i [0.00]	You can always have fun with your friends and then find your date there I actually haven't been in a wedding myself this age but that's what I would do... I should watch Wedding Crashers now __________________ 2006 330i Steptronic/Alpine White/Black Leather/Burl Walnut Trim/Premium Package/iDrive/Heated Seats/Winter: STYLE 159 Blizzak LM-22 RFT/Summer: TBD 2004 X5 Steptronic/Alpine White/Grey Leather/Poplar Trim/Premium Package/Heated Seats/iPod Adapter
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e90rocks Myrmidon 19 Rep 236 Posts Drives: Entwicklung 90 - 325 Xi Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Pittsburgh, PA iTrader: (0) Garage List 2006 325 xi [0.00]	I'd bring a date or skip the reception, but then (except for my own) I hate weddings. I can't believe I even went to this play once, I forget the name...it was like Danny and Donna's Wedding...only it was audience participation. Basically it was like going to a wedding where you didn't know anybody, only it wasn't a real wedding. (It even got worse when a guy got mad at me for dancing with his wife).
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BellasBmw If love is the answer,please rephrase the question 335 Rep 1,731 Posts Drives: Tit Silver 325i Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: San Diego, Ca iTrader: (1) Garage List 2006 325i [0.00]	Well weddings are a great place to meet a girl. Ive met once x bf at a wedding and my cousin just met a guy at a wedding 2 weeks ago. So, theres always the option of finding your date there. BUT, if this was a wedding where u only knew your friend, then i wouldnt go alone. But if your boys will all be there, and you know the family..etc. going alone aint so bad. __________________ ~~BellasBmw~~ Proud mama to 325i/TiAg/Black lette/Pwr seats/Sirius/Sport/Walnut/Step/Xenons/Chrome exhaust/20% tint
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magmd Major General 165 Rep 5,271 Posts Drives: '06 330i Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Torrance, CA iTrader: (13) Garage List 2006 330i [0.00]	You should go to the reception. It will not be so terrible. Well, I am always comfortable meeting new people...even if its just small talk. No need to go there anticipating to hook up. Just go get some light eating...enjoy some booze, and make some small talk. Your friend that is getting married will appreciate it. And, if it is terrible...you can always leave after an hour or so. with strangers is not that bad __________________ 2006 330i \| Black Sapphire Metallic \| Step Auto \| Navi with iDr \| Sports Pkg \|OEM Rear Spoiler \| 3M CS35 Tint \| H&R Sport Springs \| Koni Yellows \| Advan RS Racing Hypersilver: 19x9 et22 19x10 et20
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larryn Lieutenant General 2156 Rep 10,176 Posts Drives: '97 332ti, '21 X5 45e, '16 GT4 Join Date: May 2005 Location: Seattle iTrader: (2)	Bring a friend you'll have fun with. If you choose to not go, make sure you RSVP that you're not attending the reception! I had 12 no-shows at my 170 person reception. That was over a thousand dollars flushed down the toilet. I was pretty ticked off at the people who did that. We respected people enough to invite them to a personal moment in our lives, and they chose to blow it off.
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Neil The Designer 5 Rep 233 Posts Drives: Nissan Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: CT, USA iTrader: (0)	I was in my friends wedding solo (as one of the groomsmen) and I had a blast. I danced all night with some of the bridesmaids and other random women. Plus if its an open bar, how can you go wrong! It helps though at least knowing some of the people there so if the pickings are slim you have someone to talk to.
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Robin_NL S0THPAW 8968 Rep 7,863 Posts Drives: HS M2 Competition Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: The Netherlands iTrader: (0)	I'd say:GO(nothing to loose!) Far better than a funeral. __________________ 'I won't say anything 'cause no one listens to me anyway....I might as well be a Leonard Cohen record' -Neill
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SCA Brigadier General 576 Rep 3,742 Posts Drives: Multiple BMWs Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: 🇺🇸 iTrader: (0)	Nothing wrong with going by yourself. Especially if there will be other friends. The older I get the more independent I have become.
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BellasBmw If love is the answer,please rephrase the question 335 Rep 1,731 Posts Drives: Tit Silver 325i Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: San Diego, Ca iTrader: (1) Garage List 2006 325i [0.00]	I say just wing it.. Play it by ear. When you go to the service, see how it goes from there. __________________ ~~BellasBmw~~ Proud mama to 325i/TiAg/Black lette/Pwr seats/Sirius/Sport/Walnut/Step/Xenons/Chrome exhaust/20% tint
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shimshimhada Brigadier General 489 Rep 4,838 Posts Drives: Portal Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Portal iTrader: (2)	But seriously, when the priest goes...let them speak now or forever hold their peace, stand up and SHOUT "BRIDE'S NAME! NOOOOOO" Then be like j/k teehee~
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Squawks One of my two dachshunds: 56 Rep 663 Posts Drives: B6 A4 3.0 Quattro Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Ithaca, NY iTrader: (0)	Slubu, you got the right mentality as Vaughn and Owens on Wedding Crashers So you don't mind getting a Stage 4 clinger, eh? __________________ I'm sorry about my outlandish behavior - there's too much blood in my alcohol system.
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mava330 Colonel 106 Rep 2,251 Posts Drives: '07 M Coupe Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Bakersfield, CA iTrader: (1) Garage List 2006 BMW 330i [0.00] 2005 Honda S2000 [6.00]	sharp GO! Same thing happened to me while I was going through my divorce! Showed up to support my buddy getting married and all his friends (female persuasion) expressed interest in my new found "freedom." Bottom line you have nothing to loose. Put yourself out there. You never know what'll happen; that's the beauty of it. Remember the risk vs. reward rule; greater risk = greater potential reward. If you're hang up is that you have a hard time mingling and having small talk, this is a PERFECT staging ground to put yourself out there. How often will you see these people again? So worse case if you bomb then it's not the end of the world. risk v reward bro! My .02. __________________ 2007 ///M Coupe Sapphire Black / Black // Extended Nappa Leather // Premium Pckge // Heated Seats // Navigation RETIRED 2006 330 TiAg / Black 2005 S2000 Silverstone / Red/Black
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