[calvino]

OK so I'm not really good in relationships, I don't know why I consider my self a nice person etc...

so this is the problem my birthday was last weak and one of my friends bring a girl that I knew from high school ( I graduated on 2005) I did not know her well and she did not look that good went I was on school. but I saw her last time and she is now really really beautiful !!

so there as been a lot going on this past weak many parties etc... so I have see her many times and we have been hanging out she is really nice, on the last 2 dinners we have seat next to each other take pictures hugs etc... and every day she is leaving me comments on myspace, this are actually some of the comments:

- HEY JEAN!! the other night was fun.. xoxoox

-I will see you tomorrow at Mell's house. im excited
xox much love

-your so nice!!!! ya last night was fun. too bad i had to leave early. you are a really nice guy and I love your dancing lol

-aww jean you are so nice. noo you dont have to get me a christmas gift haha but that was a nice thought. we have to hang out over the break.

and others...

so I'm sure that she is aware that I like her, and there is something going on but what should I do next?? how do I make the next move I don't want to do something stupid
how I can tell her if she want to be my GF? I don't think I should just go and tell her hey you want to be my GF ? that only work went I was on lower and middle school I have tell her several times " you look wonderful " "I love your eyes"


any advise please ...

[BMW320i]

did u leave her comments on her myspace profile as well?? i think that would help

im not a relationship expert, but i think its harmless to tell her "i like you",,, and since she has no BF (that's true right??) you can ask her out sometimes, only the two of you...

as i said before, im no expert, just my honest innocent opinion...

good luck

[FranchisePlayer]

man you don't just ask people to be in a relaionship, you're too old for that crap now.

get her PHONE NUMBER and just talk for a while on the phone, ask her to lunch or something after. Do a daytime type thing, trust me its intimate but not overwhelming.

Meet her for lunch and talk and just tell her how you feel. That you like her and you want to get to know her beyond friends. She can only say 2 general things. Yes, or No. Hey man she may just wanna have sex, that's the age you're at.

And her being "really really beautiful" means she's got breasts now and less acne right? I'm pushin 28, not old but experienced enough to know what's in between the lines. LOL

Just relax man, this one girls isn't gonna make or break your dating career. Just focus on wanting her to say yes, and that'll make your actions agree with that emotion.

[Scarabeo]

Get a pair of cojones....

Originally Posted by calvino

OK so I'm not really good in relationships, I don't know why I consider my self a nice person etc...

so this is the problem my birthday was last weak and one of my friends bring a girl that I knew from high school ( I graduated on 2005) I did not know her well and she did not look that good went I was on school. but I saw her last time and she is now really really beautiful !!

so there as been a lot going on this past weak many parties etc... so I have see her many times and we have been hanging out she is really nice, on the last 2 dinners we have seat next to each other take pictures hugs etc... and every day she is leaving me comments on myspace, this are actually some of the comments:

- HEY JEAN!! the other night was fun.. xoxoox

-I will see you tomorrow at Mell's house. im excited
xox much love

-your so nice!!!! ya last night was fun. too bad i had to leave early. you are a really nice guy and I love your dancing lol

-aww jean you are so nice. noo you dont have to get me a christmas gift haha but that was a nice thought. we have to hang out over the break.

and others...

so I'm sure that she is aware that I like her, and there is something going on but what should I do next?? how do I make the next move I don't want to do something stupid
how I can tell her if she want to be my GF? I don't think I should just go and tell her hey you want to be my GF ? that only work went I was on lower and middle school I have tell her several times " you look wonderful " "I love your eyes"


any advise please ...

[Brunotheboxer]

Originally Posted by Scarabeo

Get a pair of cojones....

just be yourself and tell her how you feel. sometimes a glass of wine can help you do this.

[Josh49]

Originally Posted by Scarabeo

Get a pair of cojones....

First off, go grab a bite to eat, go ice-skating, go for a drive, do something informal just with her. It seems everytime you've been together there were other people around. Hang out together, see how/where the conversation goes, the rest should fall into place..

[BuckJon]

Yeah take her out just the two of you. Be confident too, chicks dig confidence.

[Josh49]

Originally Posted by BuckJon

Yeah take her out just the two of you. Be confident too, chicks dig confidence.

+1

[magamaga]

Don't take too long though! Confidence is good, but the message you have to send is that confidence means only that you are happy with who you are.

If you have the ability to recognize one of those "kiss me" looks some women give, you might be able to save a lot "useless" talk.

Good Luck but remember to keep us posted.

[ward]

like my boss always says "go ugly early"


forget this girl, go date a ugly girl so the one you really want gets jealous AND she thinks you're nice for dating an ugly girl.

works every time

[eclivia]

since we are on this topic, i have a date tonight.havent been on a date since my last ex(5 months ago) and when im on a date, usually the first day or second day i kiss her already.when i think about it now, its not really that special, so wondering if its ok to like ummm not kiss her for a while(1 month or more).will she be koo with it?like if she try to kiss me than i pull back. is that koo too?

[ward]

Originally Posted by eclivia

since we are on this topic, i have a date tonight.havent been on a date since my last ex(5 months ago) and when im on a date, usually the first day or second day i kiss her already.when i think about it now, its not really that special, so wondering if its ok to like ummm not kiss her for a while(1 month or more).will she be koo with it?like if she try to kiss me than i pull back. is that koo too?

that sounds like a great way to make a girl into a friend, and who needs that, really.....

[magamaga]

No girl is gonna wait for anybody if he is not taking charge ( or at least thinks so! ).

[Poderes1]

Originally Posted by calvino

OK so I'm not really good in relationships, I don't know why I consider my self a nice person etc...

so this is the problem my birthday was last weak and one of my friends bring a girl that I knew from high school ( I graduated on 2005) I did not know her well and she did not look that good went I was on school. but I saw her last time and she is now really really beautiful !!

so there as been a lot going on this past weak many parties etc... so I have see her many times and we have been hanging out she is really nice, on the last 2 dinners we have seat next to each other take pictures hugs etc... and every day she is leaving me comments on myspace, this are actually some of the comments:

- HEY JEAN!! the other night was fun.. xoxoox

-I will see you tomorrow at Mell's house. im excited
xox much love

-your so nice!!!! ya last night was fun. too bad i had to leave early. you are a really nice guy and I love your dancing lol

-aww jean you are so nice. noo you dont have to get me a christmas gift haha but that was a nice thought. we have to hang out over the break.

and others...

so I'm sure that she is aware that I like her, and there is something going on but what should I do next?? how do I make the next move I don't want to do something stupid
how I can tell her if she want to be my GF? I don't think I should just go and tell her hey you want to be my GF ? that only work went I was on lower and middle school I have tell her several times " you look wonderful " "I love your eyes"


any advise please ...

Mr. Calvino

The best advise I can give you is become friends with her first. After all the best long lasting relationships come great friendships. Do that and you will be good. You always want to make sure that both of you are at the same level emotionally. Trust me you don't want to feel something for someone and that someone doesn't feel the same. Also you want to get to know the person very well in terms of having things in common, etc.

[darkcloud]

Write her a note such as....

Wanna go to dinner?

Circle your answer:

YES NO

Works every time. haha. Seriously though, grow some and ask her out. If all else fails you'll still have Rosie Palms.

[Alpine]

Originally Posted by Josh49

First off, go grab a bite to eat, go ice-skating, go for a drive, do something informal just with her. It seems everytime you've been together there were other people around. Hang out together, see how/where the conversation goes, the rest should fall into place..

+1 Go out together and have fun. Go ice-skating and you can laugh at each other. Good times right there.

[ksfrogman]

She already likes you, and wants to spend time with you. Do you have to place a label on your friendship yet? Be yourself, be genuine, and it wil come on its own naturally.

[KennyVendetta]

Calvino....I used to be in you same position long ago. I understand what you are going through.

First off all, you can't just say to girl, "I want to be your boyfriend." It sounds needy to a girl.

You are dangerously close to being in the friend zone. Once you are in the friend zone it near impossible to get out of it. She will value the friendship too much to mess it up by making it romantic.

You need to invite this girl somewhere and talk....just you and her. Ask her questions about her thoughts and wishes and hopes and dreams and listen to the answers. (Or at least pretend to listen)

Anyway you need to make her feel comfortable around you and then YOU HAVE TO KISS HER. Don't just plunge in though...it has to be a gradual, natural progression.

Girls/women don't usually make the first move so you need to man up and take control.

Be confident and relaxed....and be yourself.

[Ninjaneer]

As everyone else said, take her out. Movie, dinner, some activity... try to change it up on multiple dates so it doesn't become a routine.

And when you've figured it out, take pics, do a write up, and we'll ask Jason to add it to the Master DIY list

[calvino]

wow guys thanks for the for the advise, BTW: I know her for long time ago but just as a classmate not like a friend, another thing that one of my friends told me is that is broke-up like 1 moth ago with someone else, because he was cheating, so I also have to keep that in mind, maybe she is not ready for a relationship yet.
so what should I do? wait and get to now her better like KennyVendetta says or make the move like Poderes1 says before she puts me on the friend zone

[BMW F22]

Originally Posted by KennyVendetta

Calvino....I used to be in you same position long ago. I understand what you are going through.

First off all, you can't just say to girl, "I want to be your boyfriend." It sounds needy to a girl.

You are dangerously close to being in the friend zone. Once you are in the friend zone it near impossible to get out of it. She will value the friendship too much to mess it up by making it romantic.

You need to invite this girl somewhere and talk....just you and her. Ask her questions about her thoughts and wishes and hopes and dreams and listen to the answers. (Or at least pretend to listen)

Anyway you need to make her feel comfortable around you and then YOU HAVE TO KISS HER. Don't just plunge in though...it has to be a gradual, natural progression.

Girls/women don't usually make the first move so you need to man up and take control.

Be confident and relaxed....and be yourself.

Kinda hard to take your advice seriously with that sig. of yours.

Dude ur in college man- just do it!!! Ask her out to movie/dinner/ice skatin etc. do this a few times and then ask her out. Done and done!!

[Ninjaneer]

Originally Posted by calvino

so what should I do? wait and get to now her better like KennyVendetta says or make the move like Poderes1 says before she puts me on the friend zone

In either case the advice we all gave you still holds. You can still try to invite her out. Through that you'll find out where she stands, and you'll be able to see how interested she is. If you both start flirting and things are going naturally, then you're ok. If she starts holding back or doesn't want to go out, then perhaps she's not ready.