I dont know what to do

Seabiscuit · 06-23-2010, 03:17 AM

So, my GF says she loves me and we've talked about getting engaged one day, but, in a state of drunkenness, i read some text messages on her phone with a guy she used to have a thing with. All this guy talks about is "giving (him) another chance" and how he "misses her soooo much". What sucks is that my GF seems to be going along with this and most of her texts contain a "

".

I talked to her about this and she says absolutely nothing is going on, even though she says in a couple texts that if things were to go bad with us that she'd give him another chance.

Idk what im supposed to think here. I love my GF and I trust her, but after reading what i did I just dont know what to think. I want to kick the shit out of this guy, but he lives in the city where my girl goes to college.

Some back story: my GF and I have been together for 10 months, but have only lived in the same city since may.

I'm a mess

shuarma · 06-23-2010, 03:31 AM

this should be moved to the 1 Series general forum. there are plenty of females there that would be happy to help!

Dan in PA · 06-23-2010, 03:35 AM

I'd dump her...

gun6slinger9 · 06-23-2010, 03:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Dan in PA

I'd dump her...

+1 the fact that she is prepared to have that other guy as a backup shows she is not totally commited. She is planning for failure

Razzy · 06-23-2010, 03:40 AM

I'd slap her...

Dan in PA · 06-23-2010, 03:52 AM

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I'd slap her...

Me too but I'd piitb first

crazy08 · 06-23-2010, 05:34 AM

Don't do it. Her comments prove that she's not 100% committed to you.

Aija · 06-23-2010, 06:09 AM

Well you relationship is still under a year. You saw the signs:
1. She is texting the guy back
2. She might be lying to you
3. She will give him another chance
4. She is expecting the relationship to fail because of point 3.
5. She may have already gave the guy another chance. See point 2..

RUN

san~man · 06-23-2010, 06:29 AM

Time to move on, she's already proven she can't be trusted

No trust = no chance of a successful relationship

lopealle · 06-23-2010, 07:23 AM

definitely piitb then her mouth then drop her

NYCGarbagePrince · 06-23-2010, 07:46 AM

murder, suicide?

elm3 · 06-23-2010, 08:02 AM

Women can not be trusted..... I would kick her to the curve, she is messing around with that guy and you are letting her. Something like that happened to me before, but my ex was messing around with the other guy. If you already talked to her about this and you told her that it bothers you, and she still doing it, I would just tell her to f*** off. She is not worth it dude. There are plety of other women out there.

Feyd · 06-23-2010, 09:16 AM

move_on

Freakazoid · 06-23-2010, 10:55 AM

no way in hell man, cut your losses and get outta there! not going to end well

MJC///M3 · 06-23-2010, 11:07 AM

toss her out like the trash bro.

There are plenty of other girls out there....you will be fine.

ragingclue · 06-23-2010, 11:07 AM

She obviously hasn't moved on from her ex if she is still thinking of getting back with him if you two break up. You can't be in a relationship with someone who hasn't moved on from their last one, and you sure as shit can't get engaged in that situation.

ABQ325i · 06-23-2010, 11:10 AM

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Originally Posted by shuarma

this should be moved to the 1 Series general forum. there are plenty of females there that would be happy to help!

OC Guy · 06-23-2010, 11:28 AM

Kensta335 · 06-23-2010, 11:34 AM

On to the next one.

omgitselainee · 06-23-2010, 11:57 AM

Hey ...... be on your toes and simply don't do the wrong thing ??

If she was smart she would recognize this and appreciate you more where that other guy is quickly forgotten

!! Just a girl's perspective

CollinsE90 · 06-23-2010, 12:00 PM

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Originally Posted by omgitselainee

Hey ...... be on your toes and simply don't do the wrong thing ??

If she was smart she would recognize this and appreciate you more where that other guy is quickly forgotten

!! Just a girl's perspective

hahahaah fuck that

id be on my toes behind a nice new fat ass

addy85 · 06-23-2010, 12:10 PM

Show her the goat, her reaction will dictate whether you should keep her or dump her.

06-23-2010, 03:17 AM	#1
Seabiscuit Aequitas Veritas 107 Rep 69 Posts Drives: 135i Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Azkaban iTrader: (0)	I dont know what to do So, my GF says she loves me and we've talked about getting engaged one day, but, in a state of drunkenness, i read some text messages on her phone with a guy she used to have a thing with. All this guy talks about is "giving (him) another chance" and how he "misses her soooo much". What sucks is that my GF seems to be going along with this and most of her texts contain a " ". I talked to her about this and she says absolutely nothing is going on, even though she says in a couple texts that if things were to go bad with us that she'd give him another chance. Idk what im supposed to think here. I love my GF and I trust her, but after reading what i did I just dont know what to think. I want to kick the shit out of this guy, but he lives in the city where my girl goes to college. Some back story: my GF and I have been together for 10 months, but have only lived in the same city since may. I'm a mess
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shuarma Banned 91 Rep 718 Posts Drives: AW e92 Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: NY iTrader: (1)	this should be moved to the 1 Series general forum. there are plenty of females there that would be happy to help!
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06-23-2010, 03:35 AM	#3
Dan in PA Captain 93 Rep 729 Posts Drives: 2007 E92 335i Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: PA iTrader: (0) Garage List 2013 BMW Z4 sDrive35i [0.00]	I'd dump her... __________________ 2013 BMW Z4 sDrive35i\|DCT\|M-Sport\|iDrive\|Premium Sound\|Heated Seats\|Comfort Access\|PDC\|Deep Sea Blue\|Cream [At the port of exit awaiting a shipping vessel since 8/17/12]
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Razzy Lieutenant 262 Rep 509 Posts Drives: N/A Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Ontario, Canada iTrader: (0)	I'd slap her...
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06-23-2010, 05:34 AM	#7
crazy08 Private 12 Rep 89 Posts Drives: 2013 M5 Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Germany iTrader: (0) Garage List 2013 BMW M5 [10.00]	Don't do it. Her comments prove that she's not 100% committed to you. __________________ '13 M5 Imperial Blue Sold: '11 M3 IB / Fox Red Sold: '05 M3 Mystic Blue / Cinnamon
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06-23-2010, 06:09 AM	#8
Aija Captain 29 Rep 687 Posts Drives: 335Coupe 6-Speed! Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: California, Bay Area iTrader: (0)	Well you relationship is still under a year. You saw the signs: 1. She is texting the guy back 2. She might be lying to you 3. She will give him another chance 4. She is expecting the relationship to fail because of point 3. 5. She may have already gave the guy another chance. See point 2.. RUN
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06-23-2010, 06:29 AM	#9
san~man Tired 136 Rep 2,673 Posts Drives: BMW-less Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: USA iTrader: (7)	Time to move on, she's already proven she can't be trusted No trust = no chance of a successful relationship __________________ BMW-less
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06-23-2010, 07:23 AM	#10
lopealle Resident Black Guy 268 Rep 2,302 Posts Drives: Lion Join Date: May 2009 Location: Federal Way, WA iTrader: (2) Garage List 2006 M5 [10.00]	definitely piitb then her mouth then drop her
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NYCGarbagePrince Major 254 Rep 1,435 Posts Drives: X6 50i Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: NYC iTrader: (0)	murder, suicide?
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06-23-2010, 08:02 AM	#12
elm3 ///M Fan 367 Rep 2,159 Posts Drives: '09 E92 M3 IB/'17 f85 X5M LBB Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Canton, GA. iTrader: (1) Garage List 2017 BMW / X5M [9.00] 2009 E92 M3 [10.00] 2004 Yamaha R1 [10.00]	Women can not be trusted..... I would kick her to the curve, she is messing around with that guy and you are letting her. Something like that happened to me before, but my ex was messing around with the other guy. If you already talked to her about this and you told her that it bothers you, and she still doing it, I would just tell her to f* off. She is not worth it dude. There are plety of other women out there. __________________ '09 E92 ///M3 Interlagos Blue,6MT,Silver Novillo Leather,CF Trim,Premium Package,Technology Package,Cold Weather Package,Premium Sound,19"Wheels,Moonroof-Toy/'17 X5M, Long Beach Blue, Executive Package,Technology Package, Lighting Package, Driver Assist, Full Mughello Red Interior, 21" wheels-Toy/'14 535i** with M Sport and 19" wheels-Daily
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06-23-2010, 09:16 AM	#13
Feyd Major 364 Rep 1,288 Posts Drives: a DEEZZULL Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Chicago, IL iTrader: (2)	move_on
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06-23-2010, 10:55 AM	#14
Freakazoid Captain 188 Rep 962 Posts Drives: Saturn Redline Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Pittsburgh iTrader: (0)	no way in hell man, cut your losses and get outta there! not going to end well
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06-23-2010, 11:07 AM	#15
MJC///M3 Colonel 89 Rep 2,323 Posts Drives: 09 SSII E92 M3 Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Bronx, NYC iTrader: (0)	toss her out like the trash bro. There are plenty of other girls out there....you will be fine. __________________ "You will get there, but it is up to you and you alone. It is what you are willing to do, and how you are willing to get there. You must be relentless, you must be tireless, you must pursue at all costs, so that you are ready, when the time is right." -Dad
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06-23-2010, 11:07 AM	#16
ragingclue One cam is enough 136 Rep 6,801 Posts Drives: VF Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: mulletville iTrader: (1)	She obviously hasn't moved on from her ex if she is still thinking of getting back with him if you two break up. You can't be in a relationship with someone who hasn't moved on from their last one, and you sure as shit can't get engaged in that situation.
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06-23-2010, 11:34 AM	#19
Kensta335 Brigadier General 165 Rep 3,637 Posts Drives: 335i Coupe Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: So Cal 626 iTrader: (4)	On to the next one.
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06-23-2010, 11:57 AM	#20
omgitselainee Private First Class 24 Rep 126 Posts Drives: AW E92 Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: North Jersey iTrader: (0)	Hey ...... be on your toes and simply don't do the wrong thing ?? If she was smart she would recognize this and appreciate you more where that other guy is quickly forgotten !! Just a girl's perspective
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06-23-2010, 12:10 PM	#22
addy85 Got beef? 145 Rep 3,644 Posts Drives: E90 335i Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Arlington Texas iTrader: (4) Garage List 2007 335i [0.00]	Show her the goat, her reaction will dictate whether you should keep her or dump her. __________________ Special Thanks to AU335
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