[Simple1]

Ok long story short guys I fucked up big time!!! My gf was acting a bit strange/shady at least so I thought, so I asked her whether she was happy with me? one thing lead to another, and I'm wondering whether she was cheating on me, so I confronted her about the situation. It's was just a friend, (I have tons of females friends even my exes that still call me, so I can't say I don't believe her).

So now I've accused my best friend of the worst thing ever dishonor, as anyone should she angered that I asked her that and very distance. I imagine I might act the same way if she asked of me the same.

So now I'm a bit lost, food doesn't taste right, can't sleep (yea I know I'm whipped ) and our conversations are weird because I'm afraid of saying the wrong shit, which I tend to do cuz I'm a tech guy, I often forget human aren't computers, lol (I keed, I keed). But like most men, I don't know what women really feel, at this point so I guess I'm looking for help from both sexes on this forum to help out.

How do I get back in good graces with my gf, for real it's so weird not being able to speak to her when I want or go see her anytime and I have to ask whether it's alright to come over. I feel sick as hell.

[Sara]

Damn..you just lost all her trust right there with asking if she's been cheating...but honestly with my last ex..I literally just woke up one morning and didnt like him anymore.. He did nothing wrong..I did the whole avoidence breakup and finally had to tell him I was seeing someone else just to get him to stop blowing up my phone...Girls are weird.. We like to take breaks.. How old is she and how old are you?

[Crimson92]

Just talk to her I suppose......listen women lie, for all you know she might be cheating. Im not saying she is and you should ditch her. But to be sure you should talk to her.


Explain how you feel and the fact that she might of been cheating seriously worried you.

Dont be afraid to share how you feel with her or else nothing will ever get solved. and if indeed your accusation was misplaced, appologize. remember you can be wrong just as easily as she can

[Simple1]

Originally Posted by Sara504

Damn..you just lost all her trust right there with asking if she's been cheating...but honestly with my last ex..I literally just woke up one morning and didnt like him anymore.. He did nothing wrong..I did the whole avoidence breakup and finally had to tell him I was seeing someone else just to get him to stop blowing up my phone...Girls are weird.. We like to take breaks.. How old is she and how old are you?

Actually I didn't ask whether she's been cheating... Some guy calls and she's always like "I can't talk right now, because Adam is here" and I'm thinking to myself, why should me being there stop her from speaking to anyone that calls her, never stopped me before!! I don't feel anyone should call me and I can't talk in front of my gf!! you feel me?

Yea I know, women can be weird (I have 2 older sisters) that's why I'm so lost, she says she's going to call she never calls so I just want to give her some space. But If I don't call she might be like "ohh he has the nerve not to even call me", so I'm in a lose lose situation I feel like.

I'm not blowing up her phone per say ( I lost my damn cell flying back to new york from LA-Got damn I hate LA) I call her once a day since it's happened. She says she's not mad but she doesn't want to see me, I ask whether she wants me to come over? "she's like if I want" or if will I see you this weekend and she was like "maybe, I'll try" ?? She says she's stressed out from our lack of sex but she lives at home with her mom, gotta respect that right? esp. when her mom is on the way upstairs and her room is right next door.

I'm 23 and she's 19... I'm just trying to give her some space right now, last thursday she was asking me about marriage, this saturday she's telling me "she'll try to see me" I mean where did I go wrong? I felt something weird in our relationship and I asked? would it have been better for me to be quiet?

Sara I really thank you for replying she says she's stressed out from life situations, school & lack of sex (believe me this is 1 thing I my exes never complained about). The sex thing is something I try to balance out, because she's in school, I'm done with school but she wants a masters & a phd so gotta respect that too right? I mean, am I thinking too much?

I'm struggling to find a balance right now with my life too, I'm also stressed because I put everything (her future, pregnancy issues e.tc.) about her before anything of mine. I also quit my job yesterday :mad: but I got a new one with more money so I'm experiencing so much emotional highs & lows this week, I feel like I'm losing my mind. I mean she talks to me I don't want to give the wrong impression it has gotten better since tuesday the day of the aftermath but I really do miss her, and I feel sick everyday cuz in the back of my head I'm afraid she wants out (I asked and she says she doesn't want out though).

Anyother advice is very much welcome.

[Sara]

She's 19...there you go.. When ever one of my guy friends and I was with my boyfriend, I'd always tell them that I couldnt talk right now.. It's just out of respect for you that she says that.

[Crimson92]

ok seriously...it looks likes she cheating and trying to get an easy way out...i think you gave it to her..

secondly....dude we are the same age....we should be getting our shit together and looking towards a future...shes only 19 she doesnt know what she wants out of life yet.....

what ever you do dont get her pregnant..

listen to lykis---blowmeuptom.com he'll tell you everything you need to know.


You need to get working on that new job and continue making money. Look as much as I know you want it to work out with her, it probably wont. but like i said try to talk to her. If she still refuses im almost sure shes up to something. If she cant talk to her "friend" in front of you she obviously has something to hide.

[leejoobin]

Originally Posted by Simple1

So now I'm a bit lost, food doesn't taste right, can't sleep (yea I know I'm whipped ) and our conversations are weird because I'm afraid of saying the wrong shit, which I tend to do cuz I'm a tech guy, I often forget human aren't computers, lol (I keed, I keed). But like most men, I don't know what women really feel, at this point so I guess I'm looking for help from both sexes on this forum to help out.

How do I get back in good graces with my gf, for real it's so weird not being able to speak to her when I want or go see her anytime and I have to ask whether it's alright to come over. I feel sick as hell.

sounds like me few months back.
i just really hope your relationship doesn't end like mine

[Crimson92]

also i though id might add....guys never want to be friends with girls....guys are out for one thing and it isnt friendship

[leejoobin]

^ agreed

[Spool]

I just got dumped 2 days ago...


Life couldn't be better though, i'm free now

[riyatch]

i hope this doesnt sound to harsh but you need to man up. sounds like shes just messing with you now. you need to stop asking her if she still wants to be with you. instead she should be wondering if you still want to be with her. from my experience, girls/women do not like guys who seem so insecure/needy with the relationship. that'll make her push you further away. you are too damn young to be stressing over a 19 girl right now. go out and have as much fun with other women as possible. if this girl is the one for you then it will work itself out without you stressing too much over it. if it doesnt, then shes not worth it.

[Kiemyster]

are u fucking kidding me? this is a joke? just do what i always do. smoke some weed with 'er, and then discuss. that always works.

[ctgazer]

Originally Posted by Spool

I just got dumped 2 days ago...


Life couldn't be better though, i'm free now

who's panties are you gonna sniff now?

[Spool]

Originally Posted by ctgazer

who's panties are you gonna sniff now?

your sister's? j/k

[Kiemyster]

now lets be honest, spool were you joking? cause i swear that if such an opportunity presented itself.... ahahaha JK

[Spool]

Originally Posted by Kiemyster

now lets be honest, spool were you joking? cause i swear that if such an opportunity presented itself.... ahahaha JK

well it depends, if she's a 7 or above, i'd sniff it like a blood hound.

[Kiemyster]

all i have to ask: can i join you if she has a twin sister?! VOYER FTW!!!!!

[ctgazer]

oh dear...

[Kiemyster]

spool, have you ever considered getting into the porno industry. ill be the producer, you can be the number 1 actor. we would totally kick ass you know that right? and we'd take turns at that shit too. we'd fucking make girls gone wild go out of business. i like the way u think bro.

[Spool]

i'd do porn. i'll keep all their used panties

[Kiemyster]

shit, we would have like a wall with little clips that spin so u put the panties on em, and spin it so u can smell like 50 panties in 20 seconds.... u know, like a cd changer, but for panties. and just keep it spinning untill your sexual needs are met. (i think the motor would burn out after 1 use though)

[Dani]

ok, one thing I have to say. If she was cheating and the guy called when you were there she would not be stupid enough to do the suspicious "I can't talk right now"; how dumb do you think she is? If it sounds that obvious then it is innocent, if it seems a little smoother and more deceptive then maybe I'd be worried.
If a man did that they yeah I'd say he was cheating. (do not flame me for being sexist, most of you know there is a bit of truth to what I am saying) but women tend to be a bit more cunning.